Most couples in Los Angeles are aware of co-parenting, which is a technique thaat affords each parent with an equal say regarding decisions related to child-rearing. When it comes to high-conflict relationships a co-parenting situation might not work, for either the couple or the kids. Parallel parenting is one alternative that can reduce conflict and ensure kids are well cared for, according to Psychology Today.
Parallel parenting vs. co-parenting
With co-parenting, parents confer on a variety of decisions, some large and some small, and come to some kind of mutual agreement. Conversely, parallel parenting means that each party is imbued with the authority to make decisions on behalf of their child, even if those choices counter the other parent's wishes. Of course, this often entails agreeing on certain major aspects of a child's life (such as medical decisions) or delegating those decisions, but when it comes to day-to-day parenting choices can vary.
In terms of communication, parallel parenting limits the amount of conversation between two parents. Instead, they may use methods of contact like email or text, which reduces stress associated with the situation. In this case, it's important to be very specific regarding the rules of engagement, such as when communication will occur and what methods will be used.
Benefits of parallel parenting
One of the major benefits of parallel parenting is a reduction of conflict. It can also help kids forge a healthy and loving relationship with each parent, without the worry about one parent imposing on the other's relationship. For some people, remaining disconnected allows them to re-build their relationship, at which point co-parenting may once again be an option.