While domestic abuse occurs to women with greater frequency, many men also experience ill-treatment at the hands of an intimate partner. This can be an issue in both heterosexual and homosexual relationships, and men often have difficulty speaking up out of fear their claims won’t be considered credible. If you’re concerned your relationship may be abusive, the Mayo Clinic explains some of the common signs of an abusive relationship.
Many abusers want to isolate the victim from life outside the relationship. This means preventing them from seeing friends and family or putting restrictions on work and employment. It’s easier for a person to exert control over their partner when all other social ties are severed, as friends and family will likely call out problematic behavior. Additionally, when the victim can’t work, he won’t have the financial resources to make a break.
Name calling and insults
Most abusive relationships start out like every other. In fact, many abusive tendencies appear positive at the outset, i.e. a partner being overly protective eventually evolves into controlling behavior. At some point, the abuser will begin name calling or insulting his or her partner and may even blame these actions on the person being abused. Anger is often intensified by drugs or alcohol, with many abusers attributing their behavior to an underlying addiction issue.
While not all abusive relationships entail physical violence, many do. An abuser may hit, kick, bite, scratch, slap, or choke the victim. He or she may also force the victim into sexual acts, either by using actual violence or via threats. Threats can be made towards the victim of abuse or might involve another family member, such as a child or pet. Violence has no place in a loving, healthy relationship, and there is no excuse for being physically aggressive towards a romantic partner no matter the gender.