Emotional mistreatment is often a component of abusive relationships. It can be challenging for many survivors to overcome the damage caused by their abuser, especially when it comes to rebuilding self-esteem and self-confidence. Very Well Mind offers the following advice on coping with an emotionally abusive relationship and the steps you can take to regain control over your life.
Boundaries are crucial when dealing with an abuser. However, you must be willing to stick with your boundaries when they're breached. If you tell your partner that you won't tolerate insults or belittling language in the future, be willing to make good on your promise. This is the first step in rending control from your abuser. Next, have an honest talk with yourself about the nature of your relationship and your partner.
You can't influence the actions of the abuser, no matter how hard you may try. Even if the person claims his or her bad behavior stems from your actions, changing the way you are won't stop the abuse. You must accept that it's not your job to fix the abuser or change circumstances so they are more amenable. Doing so will only have the same results, as the problems stem from the abuser's actions.
Finally, building up a support network will help you plan your eventual escape. Even if you're embarrassed, talk with friends and family about what you're going through. From here, talk about ways you can leave your abuser without risking your health and well-being. If you're concerned for your safety, contact law enforcement for assistance. If you're afraid your partner might talk you into staying, enlist help from a trusted loved one to develop a plan that sticks.