Parenting is no easy feat, and doing it with your former spouse is even more difficult. As a co-parent, you will face unique challenges while working with your ex to raise your children. With these tips in mind, you can become a collaborative team for the sake of your kids.
1. Communicate effectively
Successful co-parenting requires effective communication. Now, this is sometimes easier said than done, but there are different methods you can try it to help. If face-to-face conversations aren’t possible right now because it’s too emotional, you may want to try an online co-parenting tool to help guide you. You may also want to try treating your co-parent like you would a business relationship— by speaking with respect and being cordial.
2. Establish consistent rules
As much as a child would deny it, they need routine and structure in their lives. Not only does this stability help them feel more secure, but it also helps them know what to expect and what’s expected of them. You and your co-parent should go over issues like chores, discipline, bedtimes, and other rules between the two households.
3. Create a detailed parenting plan
In addition to establishing rules at home, you and your co-parent should set out rules for more significant issues. This may include guidelines on birthdays and holidays, pick-up schedules, and introducing significant others to your child. The more detailed, the better. In some cases, this step may require a third party, such as a mediator.
4. Don’t put your children in the middle
Even with the tips above in mind, you and your co-parent are bound to run into conflict. When this happens, remember not to put your children in the middle, put them first. If you bad mouth your ex to your kids or vent about your issues, it may hurt their relationship. It’s best to leave them out of adult conversations, and let them be kids.
5. Learn to be flexible
Be aware that boundaries will be tested, but instead of fighting with your ex, focus on the needs of your children. This will require both parties to compromise when it comes to certain decisions.
Family law matters are never easy to deal with, especially when children are involved. Our child custody and divorce attorneys are here to help you take the stress out of the process so that you can focus on what matters most— your children.
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