After months of therapy, never-ending fights, and marital issues, you and your spouse have decided to end your marriage. Even though there have been problems in your relationship, you don’t want to go through a long, drawn-out ordeal that involves going to court. You are looking to have a healthy divorce, and it’s entirely possible.
We’ve been there for thousands of couples as they end their marriage, and we know how painful it can be. Our goal is to help bring you peace of mind and guide you through the process with compassionate solutions.
Avoid blaming one another
When a marriage ends, there’s a temptation to blame the other person for its failure. Doing this is only setting the foundation for a contentious battle. You have already decided that the best course of action is to get a divorce; placing blame will only add fuel to the fire. Understand that the time for blame has passed.
Look at the big picture
Before you find yourself focusing on the tiny details of your divorce, take a step back and focus on the big picture. Zeroing in on something like ensuring your assets are split 100% equally, down to the forks and knives you get, means you’re distracted from what’s most important. Don’t get wrapped up in every little detail, but instead, lay out your main goals and priorities and work down from there.
Prioritize Your Children’s Needs
Sometimes, the ones who have the most difficult times with a divorce are the ones who don’t experience it firsthand— the kids. It can be a painful experience for them, full of unease and uncertainty. By looking to divorce amicably, you and your spouse are taking the first step in putting their needs first. Remember, when you are making decisions for their future, always consider what will be the best for them ahead of your wants.
Settle Outside of the Courtroom
Divorce litigation in its nature is adversarial, pitting two parties against each other so that one can come out as the victor. If you can, try to aim for mediation to facilitate an agreement or resolve your disputes before it gets to litigation. This will help you avoid a fight while saving you time and money.
We’re here to help you take the stress out of the process. Reach out to our California divorce lawyers today at (310) 455-8364 to schedule a consultation today.